Five ways to wellbeing: how to get out of the victim mindset


I'm sure you've been there. One negative thought leads to another and you find yourself in a  downward spiral. Nothing is going right in your life and everyone has it better than you...sound familiar? If not then you're lucky my friend! I had one of these days last week so felt inspired to write this post today.

For those days when something sets you off and you get out of wack, hopefully these five tips will help bring you back up to your natural wellbeing:

1. Take ownership of how you are feeling. Say to yourself 'I chose this' and see how it feels in your body. If you're feeling angry because you're late or annoyed at a situation, on some level you chose to create that situation. It sounds counter-intuitive but it actually brings a lot of relief as you essentially saying you are in control of your emotions which you are.

2. Ask for help if you need it. If you're feeling overwhelmed then chances are you're trying to do too much. If it's something people close to you can help out with, don't be afraid to ask. It's not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength. Alternatively, if you don't feel like you have anyone to turn to, then ask the universe for a help. It can deliver the right people or events to help solve your problem. Do this at the end of a meditation for best results, when you're in more of a relaxed state of mind.

3. Become more present. We are only victims when we're trying to resist where the here and now. By surrendering to the present moment, we release any need to be somewhere else or feel a different way. Ask yourself 'what is flowing to me in the present moment' and go do that. Repeat until you feel better.

4. Make a decision and line up with it. Maybe you're trying to decide something and don't know what to do? Well firstly, I'd recommend you write to your intuition to ask for guidance. Blog post on that coming soon FYI. However, no matter what choice you make, decide that it's the best path for you. If you think to much about the 'what if's' then you'll prevent yourself from fully moving forward with your chosen option.

5. Take a break from other people's lives. On social media in particular. Feeling like everyone else has their lives together is all too common a feeling for most of us, as we see everyone's highlights on Instagram. While I think people are being much more 'real' on the gram than they used to be, there's still so much content to trigger you if you're feeling down anyway. Make sure you're aware when you're feeling in a low mood and do what you can to protect your energy.


I hope you found these tips useful. Feel free to share this blog post with anyone you think it will help!

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